I have many years of experience in providing advice and psychotherapy to highly sensitive or introverted individuals. As a psychotherapist, I ask investigative questions that help clarify the situation. Additionally, I educate each client on psychological topics related to their issues.
The educational aspect of the psychotherapy I have provided has been developed into books. In some cases, you will find the tools to resolve the issue on your own while reading the books.
Below, I’ve listed various types of issues along with references to the books that offer advice for each specific situation.
GUIDE TO MY BOOKS
Problems with relationships
The book: “Get Support from your Ancestry to be who you are,” presents a method for resolving relational issues without involving the person with whom you feel the issue. The method is particularly relevant if you want to improve your relationship with your parents or grandparents, but it can also be applied to other relationships.
“Come Closer – On Love and Self-protection” can make you aware of when you are distancing yourself from others for your own protection. If you become conscious of distancing yourself in a relationship, when you would rather be close or intimate, you can choose to lower your guard and thus become happier and more satisfied with the relationship.
“Highly Sensitive People in an Insensitive World” includes a chapter on how to switch between differing degrees of contact, allowing you to better control how casual or deep you want your contact with various individuals to be.
“The Emotional Compass” has a chapter that deals with how to cut down on explanations and expand your self-image, so you can be more open-minded with and tolerant of yourself, and relax more around others.
The book “Do You Miss Someone? How to heal a damaged relationship – or let it go” offers advice on how to restore a relationship that has become cold or boring. It also offers advice on when it is better to let go and how best to do so.
Finding a comfortable place in life as an introvert or highly sensitive person
If you are an introvert or highly sensitive type of person, you will find that some of your problems disappear by familiarizing yourself with your type and arranging your life to be more in line with who you are.
Two of my books, “Highly Sensitive People in an Insensitive World” and “On Being an Introvert or Highly Sensitive Person – a Guide to Boundaries, Joy, and Meaning” offer advice and guidance on how best to integrate yourself into life if you are an introvert or highly sensitive person.
Do you easily feel ashamed or feel guilt?
You can read about how to examine and clean up your feelings of guilt in the book “See Yourself with Friendly Eyes – How to let go of guilt”. Here you will find tools that can help you let go of the exaggerated part of your bad conscience and become kinder to yourself.
You can read about how to process your shame in the book “Confronting Shame: How to Understand Your Shame and Gain Inner Freedom.”
If you feel guilt or shame, for example in relation to a specific person, ancestrytherapy can sometimes work wonders. It is particularly relevant if it concerns your parents or grandparents, but the method can also be used in other relationships. Read about ancestry therapy in the book: ‘Get Support from your Ancestry to be who you are’.
Dissatisfaction with – or confusion about – your feelings
If you find it hard to understand – or like – your feelings, “The Emotional Compass: How to Think Better about Your Feelings” is a book that offers advice on how to understand your emotions, distance yourself from your thoughts, manage anxiety and anger, and find the way into your innermost desires.
Do you become easily awkward or insecure in social contexts?
Or are you plagued by a subsequent exhaustion?Then there is probably shame at stake, and you can enjoy reading “Confronting Shame: How to Understand Your Shame and Gain Inner Freedom.”
Does it exhaust you to help others?
Read “Helping Through Conversation”. It can aid you in setting boundaries as well as helping others more effectively, so instead of becoming a pretext for inaction to the person you’re helping, you can provide help that can make a change.
Read more about the books and see which languages into which they have been translated here
Psychotherapy
I am often asked if I give online psychotherapy. I don’t. But maybe one day in the future. If I open up to giving online therapy, I’ll write about it in my newsletter.