“Thank you for making healing strategies accessible to ordinary people.” The Danish pastor, Ulla Horsholt, wrote to me. And that’s exactly what I intend to do with my books.
Knowledge Can Solve Many Problems.
If you read the books before starting a therapy process, you may need fewer sessions. In some cases, you may even find tools to resolve your problems on your own while reading the books.
I have many years of experience offering advice and psychotherapy to highly sensitive or introverted individuals. Often, part of psychotherapy involves the therapist teaching the client strategies that are relevant to the issues they want to work on. The educational part of the psychotherapy I have provided has evolved into books.
Below, I’ve listed various types of issues and referred to the books that are relevant in those situations.
GUIDE TO MY BOOKS
Relationship Problems
The book “Do You Miss Someone? – How to heal a Damaged Relationship or Letting Go” offers advice on how to repair a relationship that has become distant or dull. It also provides insights into when it’s better to let go and how to do so in the best possible way. The book outlines seven common reasons to end a relationship and gives qualified guidance on which reasons are valid and when it might still be worthwhile to give the relationship another chance.
The book “Come Closer – On Love and Self-Protection” can help you become aware of when you’re distancing yourself from others as a way to protect yourself. If you realize that you’re doing this in a relationship where you actually want closeness or intimacy, you can choose to lower your guard, allowing for greater joy and satisfaction in the relationship.
The book “Highly Sensitive People in an Insensitive World“ includes a chapter on how to switch between different levels of connection, so you can better manage how deep or light you want your interactions with different people to be.
The book “Find New Paths” includes a chapter on how to cut back on explanations and expand your self-image, helping you be more accepting of yourself and more relaxed around others.
The book “Get Support From Your Ancestry To Be Who You Are” presents a method for solving relational problems without involving the person you’re experiencing the issue with. This method is particularly relevant if you want to improve your relationship with your parents or grandparents, but it can also be used in other relationships.
The book “ See Yourself with Friendly Eyes“ includes some chapters (6, 7, and 8) that deal with how you can relate to people who seldom feel responsible and instead see themselves as victims.
Do You Easily Feel Shame or Guilt?
You can learn how to examine and clear up your feelings of guilt in the book “See Yourself with Friendly Eyes: How to Let go of Guilt“. It contains tools to help you release excessive guilt and become kinder toward yourself.
You can learn how to work through shame in the book “Confronting Shame: How to Understand Your Shame and Gain Inner Freedom“. After reading it, you’ll understand the mechanisms behind shame better and realize that you are not the problem, even if it feels that way. Shame is a signal that something has gone wrong—but you are not what’s wrong.
If your shame or guilt is tied to a specific person, ancestry therapy can sometimes work wonders. This is especially relevant for relationships with parents or grandparents, but the method can also be used in other types of relationships. You can read about origin therapy in the book “Get Support From Your Ancestry To Be Who You Are.”
Difficult Emotions – Such as Anger, Envy, or Jealousy
In the book “Find New Paths in the Labyrinth of Emotions”, you’ll find advice on how to understand your emotions, gain distance from your thoughts, and connect with your deepest desires. I categorize different causes of anger and, depending on which category your anger falls into, I suggest strategies, words, and phrases you can use in that situation.
If you struggle with jealousy or envy, this book also helps you gain a deeper understanding of what might be going on beneath the surface.
Finding Your Place in Life as an Introvert or Highly Sensitive Person
If you are introverted or highly sensitive, some of your struggles may diminish when you understand your personality type and adjust your life to be more in alignment with who you are.
The books “Highly Sensitive People in an Insensitive World“ and “Introvert or Highly Sensitive – A Guide to Boundaries, Joy, and Meaning” provide advice and guidance on how to best navigate life if you’re introverted or highly sensitive. These tips are also very useful even if you’re only temporarily extra sensitive due to, for example, stress or depression.
Do You Often Feel Awkward or Insecure in Social Situations?
Or do you experience exhaustion afterward? Then shame may be involved, and you might benefit from reading “Confronting Shame: How to Understand Your Shame and Gain Inner Freedom.“
Would You Like to Help the People Around You?
The book “Helping Through Conversation – Specific advice, ideas and instructions” is full of advice and ideas on how to provide conversation-based support that is effective—even in the long term.
My books are translated into many languages. Read more here